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Why commitment is the hardest part of the weight-loss process and how to make it easy.

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Part 1 of a 2 part Series: "Commitment and Self-Love are the hardest parts." "Commitment and Self-Love are the hardest parts." This is what an awesome lady said to me in a FB message exchange last week. We were messaging about the weight-loss journey I'd been on and she commented on how hard work paid off. I commented that it didn't feel so hard when I learned the tools commitment and self-love. And then she said it: "Commitment and Self-Love are the hardest parts." It hit me so profoundly...that statement stuck with me and then... I remembered when I didn't have step-by-step tools to create commitment and self-love and... Dang, that was hard. It's was hard because I didn't understand what was going on with my brain, my body and my emotions. It was hard because everything in human instinct wiring actually has you do the opposite of what works. And I was trying to use only the human survival instinct tools of wil
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Self-Compassion After Thanksgiving Meal

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When I asked my clients this week how they were feeling with regards to being prepared to love themselves, make great self-loving food plans and win with Thanksgiving, they all said something along the lines of " Yep, I'm not worried, I've got the tools I need!" This is so fun. They have the tools to not have all the mind chatter around it and they have all the tools and planned beforehand to win. Are you interested in creating that type of confidence around food? If so...I can help... If you feel like you overate... Or If you feel like you really overate... If you feel like you did pretty darn good making self-loving choices at Thanksgiving... If you feel like you aren't worried about it at all.... I want to honor where ever you're at... AND I invite you to shine a light of self-compassion and self-love on where you're at. Shine compassion if you feel you overate and compassion will help you look at it from a perspective of wh
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3 Powerful Tools To Win With Food This Thanksgiving

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ARE YOU READY TO STOP THE OVEREATING THANKSGIVING SHAME?? ARE YOU READY TO WIN WITH FOOD THIS THANKSGIVING? Are you "gearing" up for Thanksgiving? Are you starting to think about all the food you'll prepare or eat or both? Are you starting to think about the aftermath of the overeating shame that ensues? Wanna be done with that aftermath of overeating shame? Let me give you 3 POWERFUL TOOLS TO BE DONE WITH THE OVEREATING SHAME AND WIN WITH FOOD THIS THANKSGIVING: TOOL #1 START WITH WHY & WHAT YOU MOST WANT ALWAYS start with questioning your thoughts about why you're making Thanksgiving food choices OR any food choices for that matter. If you've been following me, you know I'm always going to have you question your thinking first so that you create awareness and therefore connection to your pre-frontal cortex and therefore connection to rational thought & choice. You know how it goes right? We all have
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Focusing on How You're Failing NEVER WORKS.

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3 weeks ago I hit a really big goal in my business. My head was whirling with gratitude, joy, celebration and humility. I enjoyed those feelings for about 3-4 days. And then my brain went back to it's normal brain wiring instincts to: 1-Avoid Pain 2-Seek Pleasure 3-Be Efficient (do the easiest thing possible to seek pleasure and avoid pain) 4-Always Be On The Lookout for Danger/The Negative (Google negativity bias-a psychological term-brain's instinct to search for the negative) AND THEN MY BRAIN STARTED FOCUSING ON #4: ALWAYS BE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR DANGER #4 THE LOOKOUT FOR DANGER/NEGATIVITY BIAS in our minds sounds like: "What's wrong now", "what's not working", "what am I doing wrong now". It was so curious and painful. It was as if my brain was saying: "OK, 3-4 days is enough to celebrate, be proud, be joyful, now you need to look for danger again, staying in that proud, joyful feeling could get y
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"What is happening to me?  So much pain. My knees are killing me.  Both my feet hurt so badly with shooting pain that I don't know which foot to put the boot the doctor gave me.  I'm crying in pain because my body hurts so badly and the doctors aren't sure why. I can't stop gaining weight.  I'm falling apart, is this really what life after 40 is going to be like, it's too painful to live like this any more..." This is how I felt when I was in my early 40's. I was exasperated and honestly at war with body because it had gained 65 lbs. I was punishing my body with food addiction and bitter self-talk and mad that it wasn't responding the way I wanted it to. "How dare my body do this to me," I thought. And it wasn't working to continue to fight and be angry at my body or myself. I came to this breaking point over time... But things didn't change until I decided to start looking for the ways I could lo
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2 Main Reasons We Don't Lose Weight After 40 - It's Not What You Think

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Here's why you struggle so hard to lose the over-40 weight gain: YOU DON'T ASK FOR HELP and YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO IT ON YOUR OWN AND here's why you do that: You've read a ton of "diet" books. You've read a ton of "how to lose weight" articles online. You're super smart. You're so successful in SO many areas of your life. Yet, it's a struggle for you to ask for help with this because you feel shame or like you should know better because you are so smart... You've tried counting points, cutting back on carbs, drinking shakes, and or exercising your tush off. You feel like "you know what to do to lose weight" and yet, you can't "make yourself" do it or "stick to it". You can do it for a while by "willpowering" yourself or white knuckling it to stick to it but as soon as you're "done with the diet" you go back to yo-yo'ing and gainin
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