EMOTIONAL OVEREATING IS A HUMAN
BRAIN INSTINCT
WAIT, WHAT, I’M HUMAN??? I'M NORMAL?
THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME???
YEP, THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYIN'!!!!!!!!
Hi beautiful
friends!!
Can we talk about
being human?! AGAIN? 😊
Did you know the
human brain is wired to look for “what’s wrong” or “what’s wrong with me” (this
one is especially big for most women)?
Did you know you
don’t have to believe the answers it tells you when it defaults to “what’s
wrong, what’s wrong with me, this is wrong, this is wrong with me!!!”.
I was just
teaching & coaching an incredible client & something she said really
popped out at me.
She said, “I never thought that I could choose to NOT believe the
thoughts about what was wrong with me. I never knew that my brain looks for
what is wrong instinctively and that I didn’t have to believe it.”
I had been
teaching her about how the brain is always doing one or a combo of these 4
things-and we’ve talked about them before---look at the new addition #4:
1-Avoid Pain
2-Seek Pleasure
3-Be Efficient
4-Look for the negative (The Brain’s Negativity
Bias) It's always looking for danger, or wrong with us or what's wrong in a situation: it can look like judging
ourselves, beating ourselves up, or shaming ourselves or concluding that everything's gone to heck in a hand basket (when it really hasn't).
I shared with her
that this actually means N OTHING IS WRONG WITH HER BRAIN. IN FACT, IT MEANS SHE HAS A PERFECTLY, NORMAL FUNCTIONING BRAIN!!
This is a huge
a-ha for many people. Our brains are always doing some form of and or
combination of avoiding pain, seeking pleasure & doing whatever it can to
delegate thoughts down to our more survival parts of our brain so that we can
run on auto-pilot & be efficient.
It actually takes
more brain/mental energy to think about everything we do & think so we do
want our brains to delegate many thoughts down to the more survival parts of
our brain on auto-pilot or we’d be in a constant state of analysis paralysis.
We don’t have to
believe the negative thoughts in our brains. We don’t have to believe the old
software thoughts that are running the show.
In fact, this is
what I invite my clients to take a good, compassionate look at.
Have you ever had
some of these thoughts that are really just running in the background to help
you avoid pain, seek pleasure, be efficient or beat yourself up?
1. Diets never work. This isn’t going to work.
2. I’m a failure, I’ll never get better. I’ll
never be able to change.
3. I can’t find the time to take care of myself.
4. I’m so tired, it’s way easier to grab
something fast to eat on the way home.
5. I deserve this treat, I had a hard day.
6. I’m not worth it. I’m not worth taking care
of myself. I'm not enough.
7. I’m not love-able. I don’t love myself, why
would anyone else?
I INVITE YOU TO
EXPECT YOUR BRAIN TO SAY THINGS LIKE THIS.
IF YOU EXPECT IT & KNOW IT’S
JUST A NORMAL HUMAN BRAIN REACTION, IT CAN BE HELPFUL TO HELP YOU SEE: THERE
REALLY IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU.
ALL THAT’S HAPPENING IS THAT YOU HAVE A NORMAL,
FUNCTIONING HUMAN BRAIN WITH A NEGATIVITY BIAS...
THAT IS TRYING TO AVOID PAIN, SEEK PLEASURE, BE
EFFICIENT, LOOK FOR THE NEGATIVE/WHAT’S WRONG…
ALL WITH THE
INTENT TO JUST KEEP US ALIVE.
THE BEAUTY HERE
IS WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THIS, YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THAT YOU CAN QUESTION ALL THESE
THOUGHTS!
WHAT I MEAN BY
THAT IS…
Ask yourself, are my negative thoughts true, can I possibly know they are 100% true??
For example:
Diets never work. This isn’t going to work.
--REALLY, CAN YOU
KNOW THAT’S TRUE 100%. OR IS THE OLD THOUGHT SOFTWARE JUST RUNNING THE SHOW
BECAUSE “THAT’S WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST?” NOPE, YOU CAN’T SO QUESTION THAT
WITH COMPASSION—HOW IS THIS THOUGHT JUST TRYING TO HELP ME AVOID PAIN OR SEEK
PLEASURE OR BE EFFICIENT OR LOOK FOR WHAT’S WRONG/NEGATIVE?
I’m a failure, I’ll never get better at this.
I’ll never be able to change.
--OK, THINK ABOUT
THIS ONE, ARE YOU A FAILURE REALLY? HAVE YOU EVER HAD TIMES IN YOUR LIFE WHERE
YOU WERE A SUCCESS? OF COURSE, YOU HAVE, CAN YOU KNOW THAT YOU’LL NEVER BE ABLE
TO CHANGE REALLY 100% KNOW? NOPE, YOU CAN’T SO QUESTION THAT WITH
COMPASSION—HOW IS THIS THOUGHT JUST TRYING TO HELP ME AVOID PAIN OR SEEK
PLEASURE OR BE EFFICIENT OR LOOK FOR WHAT’S WRONG/NEGATIVE?
I’m not worth it. I’m not worth taking care
of myself.
--CAN YOU KNOW
THIS IS TRUE? EVER? NOPE, YOU CAN’T SO QUESTION THAT WITH COMPASSION—HOW IS
THIS THOUGHT JUST TRYING TO HELP ME AVOID PAIN OR SEEK PLEASURE OR BE EFFICIENT
OR LOOK FOR WHAT’S WRONG/NEGATIVE?
YOU ARE HUMAN,
ALL HUMAN BRAINS DO THESE THINGS. YOU ARE NORMAL. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH
YOU.
PLEASE GIVE
YOURSELF SOME COMPASSION HERE!
I invite you
to look for ways to compassionately observe that your brain is avoiding pain,
seeking pleasure, trying to be efficient (by delegating older software thoughts
down to the more survival part of your brain) or trying to look for the
negative/what’s wrong.
When you notice
your brain doing one of these things, I invite you to INSTEAD say:
FASCINATING. I
WONDER WHY?
THIS IS WHAT I TEACH IN MY PROGRAM:
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